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WWW – Accidental SAHM

We have a new contributor to the BFC blog – Jeanne Oh, pastry chef extraordinaire at some of NYC’s renowned restaurants, and now SAH Mom of 7 month old Kermit, living in the West Village with her hubby…….

I am an organized planner.  I have a healthy respect for deadlines and guidelines. While I was a student in college and in pursuit of three post graduate degrees, I never missed a class or forgot an assignment.  I assured myself that I could have it all but just not all at the same time.  Just when I thought I had it all figured out, life got in the way and I gained a sense of humor.

My husband, Joe, and I met in August 1997, engaged in December 1999, and married in October 2001.  Today, he shared a quote by Warren Buffett who pontificated that the single most important decision one will make in his life is who he marries.  We both agreed.  For starters, we never knew how difficult and long it would take to have a child and never took conception and pregnancy for granted.  Fortunately, we had each other through the good and bad.

Our little miracle arrived in April 2014.  Kermit is a sweet 7 month old boy whose toothless grin melts our hearts every single time he smiles.  For the first few weeks of his life, I swear I could watch his eyelashes grow for hours on end.  Each day I find the beauty of life’s discovery through his eyes and revel in the goodness of life’s blessing in him.  I cherish every single moment with him.  Our persistence, heartache, and perseverance were a small price to pay in exchange for our son.


Because we waited 10 years for our privilege to parent, I do not want to relinquish any more time child rearing than necessary.   A lot of my friends who are mothers struggled with their decision to continue working, whether part or full time, but I did not.  I never even considered returning to work because I only want to spend time with Kermit.  I recognize it’s a luxury to exercise this option.  I may have not planned staying at home before I was married but I accidentally found my path in life.